Who ever thought that good food, good company, and a few drinks would turn into such an insightful discussion?
In your 20s………….
Society bombards us with instructions on how to be happier, richer, and basically how to live our lives, and then one day we realize there is no standard way to live and half of the “truths” they tell us aren’t true at all.
Imagine sitting with your high school friends and laughing about your traumas. Welp! As fun as it was and as good as it felt to reconnect, especially over a hot meal, the one thing we all took away from our little get-together was “Damn, despite it all, we came along way“. However, you just always wish what you know now was what you knew back then. And a key takeaway from our little escapade was that “the adults” really did lie while we were growing up.
So here are some lies “they” tell when you’re in your 20s:
1. ON SUCCESS:
To be successful, you should go to school, get a job, save, and retire.
Things rarely go the way we expect them to and the sooner we learn that a degree doesn’t guarantee us a job, the better we’ll be. In fact, some connections take you further than your degree can.
That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take your education seriously. Just don’t forget to develop some skills along the way. And another thing: experience as much as you can.
One key takeaway from our little gathering, though, was what success looked like. It’s so important to remember that success is going to look differently for everyone
2. ON CAREER:
YOU ARE FAILING IN LIFE IF YOU DO NOT HAVE YOUR OWN BUSINESS.
Welcome to the age of “Why are you satisfied working a 9-5?” “Don’t you want more for yourself?” At least we’ve come a long way from saying you should be a doctor or a lawyer, right?
Well, not everyone is cut out to be an entrepreneur. Most people won’t tell you how much work they put in or how many nights they stayed up crying, went without clients, invested money, and lost it. There is no standard way to live, so don’t feel guilty about working for someone else, and if you do decide you want to start something of your own, know that it’s not all glitz and glamour
3. ON UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS: YOU SHOULD KNOW WHAT YOU WANT BY NOW
At your age, I already had X. I’ve already done X. What’s your plan?
So funny………..
People rarely have everything figured out. And even when they think they do, here comes life with a curve-ball. The thing is, when we’re older and we look back, we often glamorize our past. It’s understandable that whatever we experienced made us into who we are, and it’s easy to look back at those experiences as something good that helped shape us up. But we sometimes forget how lost we felt, how we randomly found ourselves and even opportunities, and most importantly, how very little went the way we planned
The takeaway: it’s okay to not have everything figured out. It’s perfectly normal to fail, try new things,and experiment with who you want to be. Don’t put limits on yourself.
Our 20s are a great time to discover who we want to be. So try not to box yourself in and fall under the pressure of living up to other people’s expectations
4.ON LIFE & OPPORTUNITY:
IF IT COMES EASY IT’S NOT GOOD.
“EASY COME EASY GO”
One of the biggest lies “they” tell us about our 20s and even our 30s—actually, one of the lies that just keeps going and going—is this belief that if you get something easily, it won’t last or that it isn’t good.
I’ve been in situations where I needed a job, saw an ad, applied, and got it without hassle or stress. My friends have gotten amazing opportunities just by bumping into someone while dining out. Now imagine if we’d kept telling ourselves these came too easily—how we would have sabotaged ourselves.
I mean, I get that not everything comes easy, and you really do have to put in a lot of work to get some of the results you want, but some things are good, and they do come without stress and hassle and turn out to be blessings.
Honestly what we need to do is trust ourselves enough to know that we are strong enough to turn down things that no longer suit us.
5. ON GRATITUDE AND EXPERIENCES:
THESE ARE THE BEST YEARS OF YOUR LIFE, SO ENJOY THEM.
How do we even begin to define the best years of our lives?
It’s interesting because it seems like we’re always looking forward to having these “best years,” yet they constantly elude us. They always seem to be in the future. At 19, people will lead you to believe that your 20s are your most amazing years. It’s a time where you can experiment and have fun, but don’t have too much fun; you need to focus on building your future. Yet most 20-year-olds are stressed, constantly beating themselves up about not having everything together. It’s a mess.
Then, when you’re 29, the same people will tell you that your thirties are the best. and then it’s your 40s…
Moral of the story: You create your best life; it doesn’t just come with age. It’s okay to not have everything figured out. What we need is to work on finding balance and learning to prioritize things based on their daily, monthly, or yearly importance.
THEN AGAIN…….
A wise person once told me that some people’s lies are others truths, because at the end of the day, life is based on experiences.
Anything else you would add to the list? Let me know in the comments below
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